When we need to define treating children with basic empathy, patience, and kindness as ‘gentle’ or ‘soft’ parenting, that means the ‘normal’, average parenting style is essentially just child abuse lite.
How many people are suffering because their parents couldn’t be bothered to treat them like human beings? How many people take that abuse, internalise it, and use it to hurt others? How many terrible people in power were taught that they *deserve* power because of their identity? How many of those people in power made those bad decisions because they were never taught to empathise with people who are different than them? How many people value money over human beings because their parents did the same? How many people have been abused, brainwashed, or mislead by religion? How many people continue the generational cycle of abuse?
Even those of us with relatively decent childhoods still had moments where our parents let us down, hurt us, ignored us when we needed them most.
The fact that we don’t consider having a child as one of the most impactful, difficult, and life altering decisions we can make is one of the biggest detriments to our species as a whole.