I remember watching an episode of This Morning that included two women who had chosen to not give birth as an objection to societal oppression and environmental awareness.
I was upset with them not wanting to have children and I didn’t really understand why I was upset.
It took me of couple of years after, when I actually started contemplating children to realise that I was upset because I felt like I had no other choice than to have children.
Especially coming from a family that believes in prophets that told me I would live long enough to see my grandchildren’s children .
It was in the same year that I decided to live my life without religion, it brought on so much freedom and allowed me to think for myself. Realising how much I didn’t want to live a life being told what I should do according to some old scriptures written by men. I was extremely brainwashed and lacked insight about the real life we’re living in and it took a long time to really start living my life my own way.
5 years later and I am so glad I saw that episode. It was eye-opening and saved me from accepting relationships based on marriage with the expectation of children, sentencing myself to a life that would’ve been miserable and empty.
That’s why I advocate for women speaking out about the choice of being CF, especially in third world countries where having children limits a lot of teens and women from low-income families. I wholeheartedly believe that economic progress is possible if women have an opportunity to enter the world of work and actively reduce poverty.